The Holy Trinity

Right. I’ve cracked it. I’ve worked out the answer. This is it.

1) State of mind

Find inner peace with yourself and learn to control your state.
2) Don’t fuck up

Learn a basic structure in which to operate and not blow yourself out.
3)Meet women.

Conquer your AA, do loads of sets until you can be yourself, then go out and talk to women.

That’s it. That’s all there is to it. Everything you need for a lifetime of abundance.

The Fountainhead

I’m starting to understand. The dots are starting to connect. My personal journey is taking me, with slow, roundabout circles, towards a philosophy, a state of being. That’s what this is really all about and anyone into game who doesn’t get this is focusing on their pointed finger and missing all the heavenly glory of the moon at which it’s pointing.

Part of what brought on my hiatus recently was that I started reading The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand and everything else lost relevance. From the fascinating, powerful character of Howard Roark you can learn a lot about this target philosophy. Some of the key writers in game are well aware of this target state and their opinions overlap.

Let’s start with what Ayn Rand. From “The Fountainhead“:

“Then you do need other people, after all, don’t you, Howard?”

“Of couse. What are you laughing at?”

“I’ve always thought that you were the most anti-social animal I’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting.”

“I need people to give me work. I’m not building mausoleums. Do you suppose I should need htem in some other way? In a closer, more personal way?”

“No.”

“You’re not even boasting about it.”

“Should I?”

“You can’t. You’re too arrogant to boast.”

“Is that what I am?

“Don’t you know what you are?”

“No. Not as far as you’re seeing me, or anyone else.”

Heller sat silently, his wrist describing circles with a cigarette. Then Heller laughed, and said:

“That was typical.”

“What?”

“That you didn’t ask me to tell you what you are as I see you. Anybody else would have.”

And we have Ross Jeffries in his new book “Secrets of Speed Seduction Mastery” saying:

True, deep confidence that resonates in the deep mind, heart, sould and body of a woman consists of walking through the world without needing a guarantee, without making excuses and without inflicting yoruself on the other person. This is crucial.

Another way to put it is that you don’t back away from your desires, but you also won’t inflict yourself on others.

And finally putting it all together like a wise gnome we have RSD’s Owen Cook/Tyler Durden in the wonderful “The Blueprint“:

Walking through the world with ease… take all these aspects; core confidence, strong reality, acting through intentions, masculine polarity, being present, put them all in one concept and get Walking Through The World With Ease.

The PUA Cycle of Funk

Well I’m back after having a few weeks away from game and I feel a lot better for it. A few weeks ago I went from a state of obsessiveness to fatigue and disullusionment within a few days. Wisely taking a few game-free weeks in the real world, spending time with the family, cleaning the house, lying in the park in the sun and basically being normal I now realise that game has a Cycle of Funk associated with it. Anyone who’s lived abroad for a significant length of time will be aware of the range of emotions you go through when you start living in a foreign country. First is the honeymoon period when all is new and amazing. Then comes the plateau as you adjust. Then come the niggles and the homesickeness. After that you get resentment and after that comes hate. Eventually you live with the hate, you appreciate the good sides and the weirdness becomes normal and you enter the final stage, where it becomes your new home.

Well I think anyone on a game “journey” goes through a similar cycle. I certainly am. Since I got into game, which was in January when I read ‘The Game’, I’ve gone through the following emotions:

Disbelief: This stuff is ridiculous.

Curiosity: Mmm maybe this can fix my life.

Experimentation: Let’s try.

Belief: Oh my god it works.

Doubt: …but for other people.

Acceptance: …oh, for me too!

Sadness: Oh all those years…

Acceptance: I know why what happened happened now. I am at peace.

Gladness: Thank god I found this.

Fervour: Must read everything, must practice.

Obsession: All I think about is game.

Evangelism: Game can change your life, I must tell my close friends.

Scorn: Lots of PUAs are sad wannabes. Lots of PUAs are twats.

Fatigue: I’m spent. I don’t want to see another thing to do with game.

Disinterest: I’ve lost interest. The real world is nicer.

Calm: Time for a life/game balance.

Over the last few months I found my obsession reaching a fever pitch. I set myself a gaming timetable which saw me live through a few weeks doing nothing but reading about game or going out gaming. Inevitably I sickened myself and had to take a break. Gaming four times in one weekend is a lot! The whole weekend just goes in a flash and you’ve done nothing but game and sleep. It can’t be maintained. If you’re working Monday to Friday you need to relax on the weekend. Yes, the sad truth is most people are so knackered from work they don’t have the energy to do what they want in their free time. Modern slavery.

I enjoyed my few weeks off and see it as just another stage. I’ve now calmed down a lot about game and find myself in a strange place. I feel no overwhelming urge to constantly ‘open sets’ all the time. When I think of the weekend I think of relaxing and having fun not running round like a blue-arsed fly without a minutes rest. I still want to get out there and work on getting where I want to go but I just feel…. differently motivated than before. I don’t have such a sense of panic. It’s all do-able. What’s the rush? Now that I know I can get a girlfriend then my panic and urgency seems to have evaporated. In fact I’ve been on three dates with the Venezuelan but I’m not feeling any great attraction building so I actually feel like I can’t be bothered to meet her again. My pre-game self would have been stunned at this. “This is your chance!” he’d have said, quite happy to engage in weeks of boring dating for a chance to acquire a girlfriend. Not anymore. I can’t be bothered. I want something inspiring. Plenty more opportunities will be along soon. What do I want? I tried to write a post answering that several months ago and failed. I think it’s time to have another crack at it.

Hiatus

Sorry folks… been taking a break from game and writing about game for a couple of weeks. It all got a bit much and I needed to go back into the real world for a while.

Got a bundle of posts planned and they’ll be going up before the end of the week.